CFC Blog #29: Some days

This is a piece written by Sasha about a year ago. I read it months ago, but was reminded of its important message this week when I decided last minute to cook dinner for my boyfriend. It was a pretty simple meal consisting of boiling some water for pasta, cracking open a jar of sauce, and throwing in some veggies. The most difficult part of the meal prep was getting that sauce jar open. I honestly felt bad about its simplicity. It didn't take until his third compliment for me to realize his great appreciation. Next time, I aim to fully recognize the positivity and encouragement the first time...then pass it on :) Thanks Sasha!

- Amanda

Some days

Some days you get a lot of praise for work well done.

It can feel like this praise isn’t deserved, or that it is for things that came easily to you, or that it is not worth all the fuss. Often this means that you won’t allow yourself to fully hear the gratitude and appreciation that someone expresses.

Other days you toil and sweat and put your heart and soul into a thing and nothing comes back. Or, worse, it’s exactly your best work that engenders criticism or nit-picking or downright resistance.

The thing to remember is this: gift-giving is circular. Your best ideas, your art, your emotional labor, your love, these things never come back to you in a binary way. Imagine instead that the positive words you’re hearing took a long, circuitous route to get to you. They are the winding, imperfect product of you putting bravest, truest self out into the world.

What we need from you is your continued courage, grit and determination.

And what we encourage is that you allow yourself to be sustained by the positive words that do come back your way, because the people sharing these words are, secretly, messengers for many.